Grand-parental Influence
When my oldest grandson was only four my daughter and I were running errands with my grands in the backseat. As we chatted we heard a little voice say, “Mom, I would like to be a part of this conversation.”
We chuckled but took him seriously. Of course he wants to be a part of our conversation, and in the car it is appropriate for him to be. We should not have a conversation in a closed space with children that they should not be able to participate in (or about things they should not hear).
His words reminded me that we have few opportunities like that when they are a captive audience. It makes sense to include them and to be aware of the message we are conveying in the conversation.
When asked, he didn’t have much to offer, he wanted us to keep talking. I guess he wanted us to know he was there and was a part of it even if he was quiet for the moment.
One thing this conversation did was remind me of our generational responsibilities as Grandparents. These two, and the five more who would come after them, are as much a responsibility to my husband and me as their mother is. I don’t mean this in a day-to-day providing for them way, but in a “set an example” sense.
What I realized in that car was that my daughter and I were teaching, even though we were not intentional about it.
I have talked to Christians who seemed to think that Christian education is more the responsibility of the church than the parents (and Grandparents). The view was that any parent who was not taking advantage of every opportunity the church doors were open (Sunday morning for church and Sunday School, Sunday evening for some small groups, and Wednesday night for a children’s program or youth group) was not allowing those who can “properly” teach their children to teach them. As if scriptural teaching is best left to the “professionals.”
A lot of theology can be taught around a family dinner table, or in discussions of what is currently happening in the world. Even conversations based on a TV show or movie can promote a Christian worldview. Every child learns his worldview from family (usually parents), even when they go to church three times a week. If we do not take the time to consciously and intentionally teach it, it may be the wrong worldview.
I am all for Sunday School and small groups if they are Christ-centered and focused on spiritual growth, not just entertainment. I am also concerned that our kids spend so much time away from the family that those who have a God-given assignment to teach their children have few opportunities.
As parents, and grandparents, are we aware of what our children are being taught? Grandparents, are we intentionally including them in our conversations and consciously thinking about the example we’re setting or the instructions we’re giving? Do we think about the content of the books we read to our little ones? Books for kids are not necessarily benign. Are we watching programs, podcasts, and videos while the kids are around? Are they appropriate for little ears?
Kids want to be a part of our conversations. If they are within hearing range, they are a part of them, whether we are conscious of it or not. Let’s be aware!
Jesus loves the little children. Is the example we set the imitation of Christ?
But when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them, “Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God. Mark 10:14
Brothers, join in imitating me, and keep your eyes on those who walk according to the example you have in us.
Philippians 3:17